The Story of a True American Hero, His Princess, and Their Struggle with TBI/PTSD.

Thursday, February 17, 2011

Boundaries: The importance of choosing to value ourselves

“Your personal boundaries protect the inner core of your identity and your right to choices.”
-Gerard Manley Hopkins


I feel like I haven't been on here in forever, school is consuming most of my time, and I miss my husband and kids, so any free time I have I like to spend with them. This has brought me to my newest revelation, I don't have time for drama, for people who act like high schoolers, for people who ask for advice and don't take it, honestly, I barely have time to shower....haha not really, but you get the idea. Drama is consuming, even just within families, he said this, she said this, then words get twisted all around. Grow up people. I have realized that I can be involved without being involved in the drama, I can care, without caring about the drama. I am proud of the person I am, I am accomplishing a lot, going to school full time,  I am caring for my family, and if you aren't due to poor choices of your own, i'm sorry, but that is not for me to deal with. If you want to enable people to be that way, again, not my problem. Its time for me to safe guard my heart. This year is about growth for me and my family, an upward change, not to be drug down by drama, and petty insecurities. It may feel for some as though i'm taking a backseat, but thats not the case, ill still be as involved as I ever was, but the negativity must be left at the door. I don't have time for it! No matter who you are, what your situation is, boundaries are important, with work, with family, with school, within your self. So set them, and if you have to build fences around them to keep them there. Consistency is key!
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Wednesday, February 02, 2011

Appreciate a little more

If there is one thing I have learned throughout this whole journey, it is that the more you open your eyes, the more you see. Last night, I sat at the table with my frustrated husband doing homework. If you can imagine, I sat there with two different assignments, a drink, my phone, and many other distractions, and he sat there with head phones on to drown out the noise, his computer, and his paper, to eliminate any distractions. It wasn't the actual homework he was having a problem with, it was copying the problem in its entirety from the paper to the screen without error. Every time, we would miss something, or see one number as another, or think he was done when he had another part left do do yet. I learned two very important lessons just  sitting there last night. 1.) Determination.  He kept trying no matter how frustrated he got, no matter how many times he didn't get it right, he was going to sit there until he got it right. If he needed to take a break for a few minutes and come back to it, he did, but he never gave up. 2.) Appreciate a little more. In this life we tend to say don't take things for granted, but most times we mean family, friends, life in general, we never really take the time to think about the small things. Appreciate EVERYTHING, even if it is a simple thing like the ability to do math, or copy from a notepad to a computer. Appreciate that you can hear, that you can see, that you can hold a pencil. Appreciate that you can run, and jump, and swim. Everyone has an amazing skill set, use it, perfect it, and never take it for granted. Things could change in an instant, and you will wish you had.
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