its incredibly addicting, it feels good at the time, and it can cause lasting damage. Selfishness takes a terrible toll on relationships. Much like drugs, selfishness causes one to excessively focus on their selves preventing them from experiencing all the great things that come from a true relationship. Selfishness during a time when someone truly needs you is even more detrimental...Id like to shake the crap out of all the selfish people in my life right now while reminding them that my husband, their brother, son, friend, etc. was seriously injured in combat and suffers everyday, and instead of calling him to borrow money, or make him feel sorry for them, maybe they should just ask him how HE'S doing!! Unfortunately, I don't have it in me, to hurt those who have hurt me so instead, id like to share some tips on how to overcome your selfishness.