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its incredibly addicting, it feels good at the time, and it can cause lasting damage. Selfishness takes a terrible toll on relationships. Much like drugs, selfishness causes one to excessively focus on their selves preventing them from experiencing all the great things that come from a true relationship. Selfishness during a time when someone truly needs you is even more detrimental...Id like to shake the crap out of all the selfish people in my life right now while reminding them that my husband, their brother, son, friend, etc. was seriously injured in combat and suffers everyday, and instead of calling him to borrow money, or make him feel sorry for them, maybe they should just ask him how HE'S doing!! Unfortunately, I don't have it in me, to hurt those who have hurt me so instead, id like to share some tips on how to overcome your selfishness.
- Take an inventory of yourself. Give yourself a little test: throughout your regular day, how many times are your thoughts focused on yourself, your problems, your needs, your desires, your dreams? Do thoughts of others enter your mind, thoughts of how your neighbors, friends or family members are doing, or do you only think of them when you need a favor? When you have a conversation, do you listen to others, or do you wish the person would hurry up and finish his or her sentence so you can keep the focus on yourself? Be honest. The purpose is not to feel miserable about yourself and to think you are a terrible person, but to admit there is room for improvement. It is never too late to start changing, it is never impossible to change and yes, an old dog can be taught a few new tricks.
- Give yourself room to think of others. Don't shut the doors of your
heart . You may not believe it, but your heart is so large it is filled to the brim with generosity. It is up to you to retrieve it. Don't shut the door to other souls. Make room for them.
- Be a giver on purpose. Look for ways to be good to people. Many will not ask you for anything, but if you force yourself to look beyond the surface, you will find many ways to help someone in need. Be determined you are going to be a blessing to at least 5 people per week. You need to be on the offensive, not passively wait for people to come and ask you to be generous. Can you afford to pay for someone's dinner? If that is not possible, how about paying for someone's cup of coffee the next time you are in your favorite coffee shop? If money is tight right now, how about sparing a loving word to the sad-looking person sitting next to you on the bus? There are many opportunities to be generous in a day. Don't overlook them.
- Help someone else's dreams come true. You may be tempted to think your own dreams won't come to pass if you are busy making another person's a possibility, but remember, God knows the desires of your heart. If He sees you doing all you can to be a blessing, He will cause the right people to come into your life and help you fulfill your own dreams.
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