The Story of a True American Hero, His Princess, and Their Struggle with TBI/PTSD.

Sunday, May 19, 2013

Alcohol and Marriage Survey


There are many things that can destroy a marriage, I think in my short 26 years of life, I have seen it all.  One thing in particular really pops out in my mind when I start thinking about this topic, and that is alcohol. Alcohol has been the root of a lot of problems in my life, of course I was never one to succumb to it's control, but I saw it take down friends, family members, co-workers, etc. Someone always takes on the role of the "other person" in these situations, the one who is picking up the other person when they are drunk somewhere, the person who has to make excuses for the other, the one who ends up hurt the worst. I could see how easily either my husband or myself could have fallen down this path. Growing up it was the thing to do, my parents drank socially, they drank alone, they drank together, whenever, wherever. It was just what they did. Luckily for me, I am the black sheep of the family and did my own thing all the time, it worked out for me. My husband was raised completely different however, with deep roots in the church, but combat can do things to a person. We have all seen it, Mr. Super Soldier goes to war, comes back and because of the red tape in trying to get support they turn to what they know, alcohol. From there it spirals into a whirlwind of issues, but that is a whole other blog post for another time. It did not become a problem for us, and after he began taking his lovely cocktail of medications it became something that rarely even crosses our minds.

Anyway, to the point here, I was recently approached about this survey as part of a dissertation of a graduate student from Clark University. I normally turn stuff like this away, but I feel like this one is really important. I went ahead and took it, I think you should too.


Participate in a survey on couples and alcohol use and enter to win a raffle!
Are you and your spouse legally married and at least 18 years of age?
Have you or your partner consumed alcoholic beverages in the last 6 months?
Is alcohol use an area of disagreement in your marriage?
If you answered yes to the above questions, you and your spouse are eligible to participate in a research survey regarding the relationship between your marriage and your alcohol-related help seeking behaviors. When you both complete the survey, you will each be entered into a raffle for one of four $50 Amazon gift cards!
 The survey will take each participant approximately 20 minutes, and survey responses will be anonymous.
Please click here to get started:

This study has been approved by the Clark Committee for the Rights of Human Participants in Research and Training Programs (IRB). Any questions about human rights issues should be directed to the IRB Chair, Dr. James P. Elliott, 508-793-7152jelliott@clarku.edu. The study is being conducted by C.J. Fleming, M.A. and James Cordova, Ph.D. in the Psychology Department at Clark University. Please feel free to contact the researcher ( alcoholusesurveyemail@gmail.com ) or the research supervisor ( jcordova@clarku.edu ) with any questions or concerns.




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Embrace the Change

Some things will never EVER EVER change. The unfortunate truth is that as much as we sometimes want things to stay the same, change is necessary, and healthy. Without change we prevent moving forward, instead we sit in a rut; a rut we created. The world stops for no one, it will keep going whether you want it to or not. One day when you wake up and realize that everything around you has changed, everything but you, then and maybe only then will you realize that sometimes you just have to push through that 10 minutes, or 6 months of uncertainty of whats on the other side, because once you get there, none of this will even matter anyway.


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Wednesday, May 01, 2013

Help Children of Fallen Military Go to Camp!

Hi everyone, This is Kynlee, she is the daughter of a Purple Heart recipient in Middleburg. She is collecting items to be placed in backpacks accompanying children of fallen military to camp this summer. The following items are what we need. Please consider making a donation from the list, I can arrange for dop off or pick up if you are local or you can paypal me, and I will purchase the items. (I will post receipts so you know where the money went.
Bags or Backpacks
Waterbottles
Bug Spray
Tooth Brushes
Tooth Paste
Combs
Brushes (Hair)
Shampoo
Conditioner
Soap
Shower Gel
Paper
Journals
Envelopes
Pens/Pencils
Stamps
Disposable Cameras
Flint Kit to light fires with note
Small Compass
Flash Light with Batteries
Lantern
Collaspable Water Containers
Waterproof Gloves

We will be collecting items now through June 1st. Thank you for your support! You can contact me at kristlehelmuth@gmail.com to donate. 




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Wednesday, April 10, 2013

Support Wounded Warriors by Rocking Super Cute Tee's! :)

Kynlee, my 4 year old daughter is selling these T-shirts to raise money for Wounded Warriors! They have been a huge hit on Facebook, so I thought I would share here too! She has sold a ton already, and is super excited about it because as you may know, her Daddy is a Wounded Warrior, so this cause is very dear to our hearts! Shirts are $10 each, and are available in sizes 2T-3x, let me know if you are interested! email kristlehelmuth@gmail.com. Thanks for your support!






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Thursday, March 21, 2013

101 in 1001; an Update.


It's been a while since I have posted an update on my bucket list, so here it is: 



GREEN=DONE
YELLOW =WORKING
RED=FAIL 

  1. Send 200 cards/letters to friends and family, preferably handmade. 
  2. Learn to sew- Well, I haven't mastered the art, but I have learned that it is a continual process, there is always something else to learn, something else to make, but I did get a sewing machine, and make a few really cool things. 
  3. Write a letter to a person I admire. I admire A LOT of people, I have written a few, but have many more to go.
  4. Decorate my house. This is sort of an ongoing thing too, but I am working on it, and I think that was actually the whole point of putting on the list, at least getting started, I am bored of staring at blank walls. We have so many of them, but I have never had so many walls in my life, so it's going to take a while.   
  5. Try geocaching.
  6. Take a dance class.
  7. Organize craft room, this is ongoing. 
  8. Get more involved in Church.
  9. Participate in a bible study each week.
  10. Take a photo of the Kids everyday.
  11. Take a photo of something I love everyday.
  12. Blog Everyday, ugh, this is a hard one for me. Failing at this one....
  13. Limit Soda intake.
  14. Read 50 books. Finished Tell My Sons, look for a post about that soon! Currently reading Let's Pretend This Never Happened.
  15. Attend a scrapbooking weekend.
  16. Girls weekend.
  17. Make a new friend.
  18. Turn Photos into Coffee table book.
  19. Plant a Time Capsule
  20. Go to the beach, alot.
  21. Increase my GPA.
  22. Have a party, just for fun.
  23. Encourage someone else to make a list.
  24. Enter a competition. I competed in a pageant! :) I got 1st runner up. 
  25. Attend 5 plays or live shows.
  26. Swim with dolphins.
  27. Answer the "50 questions that free your mind." Each week on Friday, I am answering one question, okay, I skipped a couple weeks, but I fully intend to catch back up this week. 
  28. Stay Active in the Me First group. I am not sure what happened to this, I think I got kicked out, but I never started, so I don't know. 
  29. Get the Hearts of Valor group going strong. I feel like I am failing at this, but I think I have done everything one person possibly could to get this group up and going, and it still isn't, patience  is a virtue, I guess. I am really losing faith in it ever going anywhere. 
  30. Take a road trip. We have been road tripping a lot, mostly to Disney World, and pageants, we really enjoy traveling, hopefully this summer we can do more. 
  31. Continue volunteering, share the lessons I learn.
  32. Couch to 5k
  33. Have another baby.
  34. Create the Soundtrack of my life.
  35. Go camping.
  36. Compete in another pageant with my daughter. See photos! :) 
  37. Submit anything for publication.
  38. Feature one blogger per week.
  39. Have at least one garage sale.
  40. Learn to sew.
  41. Ride in a hot air balloon.
  42. Open an etsy store.
  43. Travel somewhere by train.
  44. Go to a Blog Conference.
  45. Start a collection of something.
  46. Have a "burn" party.
  47. Start an all about me scrapbook.
  48. Go to a concert
  49. Have professional photos done, of me. See photos! :) 
  50. Publish and send a family newsletter each month.
  51. Finish my degree.
  52. Start college funds for the kids.
  53. Establish and maintain a blog linkup.
  54. Make a list of 101 of my favorite quotes.
  55. Send stuff to my sister.
  56. Go horseback riding.
  57. Attend 12 photo meet ups.
  58. Name Stars
  59. Go out with friends once a month.
  60. See a Drive-Inn movie
  61. Leave the amount of the bill as the tip.
  62. Participate in a walk for a cause.
  63. Complete a “thing to do” that one of my blog readers suggests
  64. No eating out during the week.
  65. Paint my nails once a week.
  66. Go sledding.
  67. Start a Tshirt quilt.
  68. Write letters to my kids to open in 10 years.
  69. Weed out the negative people in my life, even those on social media.
  70. Attend Wednesday night caregiver group, and TrenchTalk every week.
  71. Finish my Mission Continues Fellowship. Completed! 
  72. Get my eyes checked.
  73. Celebrate our Anniversary somewhere awesome.
  74. Handwrite a blog entry and scan it to the blog
  75. Burn all my CD's to Itunes.
  76. Do a budoir photo shoot.
  77. Host a little girl tea party with my daughter.
  78. Go to a theme park. Been to Disney World! Twice! :) 
  79. Design new business cards.
  80. Do 5 photo shoots for people who are not family.
  81. Get my concealed carry license.
  82. Get my own personal stationary.
  83. Do a volunteer travel trip.
  84. Grow our own pumpkins.
  85. Volunteer at a crisis pregnancy center.
  86. Make 10 things off Pinterest, then add them to pinterest.
  87. Get family photos put on canvas to hang in the house, I got a really awesome deal on some canvas prints, now to decide which to use....hmmm, decisions, decisions.
  88. Visit a state I have not been to.
  89. Help someone in a big way, anonymously.
  90. Learn to play 3 songs on the keyboard.
  91. Learn to play 3 songs on the guitar.
  92. Go on a ghost tour.
  93. Read 5 banned books.
  94. Stop feeling so guilty for things I should not feel guilty over.
  95. Pay off all credit card debt. We are getting so close, we have one card left with a balance of about 2000, we can do this!! :) After that all we will have debt wise is cars, and things like cable, phones etc. 
  96. Complete 10 technology free weekends.
I couldn't get this to format right with the photos inside, so here they are! 













Friday, March 08, 2013

50 Questions Friday Week 7!


Welcome to Free Your Mind Friday! I hope that you all will join me as I take on this challenge. Every Friday from today, until 50 weeks from now, Fridays will be devoted to answering one of the 50 Questions That Will Free Your Mind. You can add your link each week to my post so that you can connect with other bloggers, and challenge yourself to answer the questions as well.
On my list of 101 things to do in 1001 days, you will find that one thing I plan to challenge myself with is to answer the 50 Questions that will free your mind. Each Friday from tomorrow until I finish, Friday's will be devoted to answering these questions. 
These questions have no right or wrong answers.
Because sometimes asking the right questions is the answer.


If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?

Helping others; helping people is my passion, it makes me happy to be able to help someone else. It makes me happy to share that love for helping others with other people, and to follow it through, and see those who have been helped, help someone in need. It's a cycle, and when operating correctly it is a beautiful one, a cycle I could see repeated over and over again, and never need anything else.


Since I skipped last week, I have to do two questions this week. :) 


Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you are doing?

I am doing what I believe in, and right now that means doing the best I can to take care of my husband, my kids, and create a solid foundation for them. I want the best for them all, and I want them to succeed, and be happy no matter what challenges face them, I also want for me, to be the best person I can be for them, so that means taking care of me, and while it was not always on the forefront of my mind,( I often settled,) it is something I believe in, and something I am working on. 
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Wednesday, February 27, 2013

It's a Wiener; How I failed at a talk that was not 'The Talk."



I have a lot of work to do before I have "The Talk" with my kids, my attempts at explaining a catheter today proved that. LOL

Kynlee: Mom, whats this?
Me: A Catheter
Kynlee: Whats a catheter?
Me: That.
Kynlee: Mooooom.                                
Me: It helps people pee.
Kynlee:So, it's a wiener?
Me: It's not a wiener, and I don't like that word.
Kynlee: Does it help YOU pee?
Me:No, it helps Daddy Pee.
Kynlee: Then it IS a wiener. How does it help him pee.
Me: Want to go out to lunch??





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